Category Archives: Us
Things that have happened:
- E turned one, and on the same day started walking
- D mostly potty trained (still working on nights…)
- I started working again – in a new job
- D and E now attend nursery part of the week
- E is now going through the challenging times that made me give up breastfeeding D
- …er, that’s about it
Being back at work is interesting. When I went back after having D, his father stayed home to look after him and I went back to my old job. This time it’s a new job, and D and E’s father also has a full time job now, so it’s been a bit of fun trying to sort childcare and routines and whatnot. We’re two months in now though, and I think they’re happy with things – D’s going through a ‘terrible two’ rebellious phase and E’s in a “I don’t want to stay still” phase though, so who knows…!
What I believed: co-sleeping is not only dangerous, it will lead to clingy kids
I had no intention of co-sleeping. I heard about other people doing it, and thought “well, that’s up to them” while imagining a 5 year old jumping into my bed. Urgh, nooo thank you! …and then I had D. D, who from the very first night only settled when he could feel me. Who would only settle if I fed him, and cuddled him and stayed with him. These are not unreasonable demands of a newborn baby, but I tried for some time to get him to sleep in his cot – I was up all night picking him up and soothing him, and finally ‘gave in’ and let him sleep next to me. We converted the cot into a side-sleeper (bed extension) but it didn’t really help; D wanted physical contact with me to be able to sleep properly. Bit of a problem when it was summer and boiling hot in the house, but it was still the only way he would settle.
D is now 10 months and 2 weeks old. He’s got 4 teeth, is fully mobile (breaststroke-like crawling. It’s quite funny really) and can say a few vague ‘words’. He points at things and says “AT!” which we thought might be ‘cat’ (as we have one) but I think it’s more a sort of “what’s that?” – especially as the AT! has become more of a “DAT!” in recent times.
I’m back at work part time and mostly from home, which has been a challenge to get used to – D being away from me, getting things done while still making sure he is fed and sleeping properly… Busy times.
D’s eczema is looking better (he doesn’t claw at his face so much now) but he still has wind issues that we were assured was colic when he was younger. We found it was a bit better if I or he did not have cheese, but I’m not sure that was much more than a coincidence :(
I can’t believe it was a year ago I was starting to round up the final purchases for his arrival. This week being Real Nappy Week reminds me that it was a year ago that I ordered his first nappies. His cot and car seat were already here, we’d purchased his first clothes, and I was in the process of choosing some bedding and a bath seat for him and getting my hospital bag together. Earlier, I was putting some of D’s latest no-longer-fitting clothes into a box, when I saw his newborn clothes there in the bottom – so tiny! Can’t believe he ever fit in those (and they were too big for him!) and was ever so tiny. I remember being given a 12m+ sleepsuit for him when he was born and thinking “wow, that’s massive!”… it barely fits him now. I’m about to start retiring the majority of his 9-12 clothes now, too… Eeeeep.
It feels like so long ago but also like it was yesterday all at the same time; it’s very weird.